Sponser Wedding WTF?!?!

Thank you Nina! My fiance and I are working overtime to pay for our wedding! I have 2 small children from my 1st marriage (never had a wedding!) so I`m excited! and he has a son from a previous relationship as well! I also agree that if you can`t afford to have an elaborate wedding, have something small! If you don`t have the money, don`t do it! We`re not hitting our parents up for money to pay for anything. We figure if we think we`re mature enough for marriage, then we should be mature enough to come up with the funds to pay for it all! I also might be wrong with my thoughts, but this is my opinion! I personally wouldn`t like these vendors names all over everything on our wedding day! It would seem so tacky!

Another thing...I think if MOST vendors want FREE advertising they will offer their services (gratis or at a reduced rate) to an ESTABLISHED VENUE or FACILITY that run a LOT of weddings....why offer your services in exchange for FREE ADVERTISING to a bunch of people that can`t afford to pay for their own weddings?? These people would most likely NOT have a huge group of friends willing to pay top dollar for said services..they`d all want have THEIR weddings "sponsored" also.

Nina I agree with you. It seems like most of the people on this message board want a big wedding, but cannot afford it. A wedding is a luxury and if you can`t afford it, then opt for something smaller or a more low-key affair. They know they could have a wedding for $1500 or even less, they just don`t want to do it. People these days have no dignity at all, they will beg for money from strangers for things that are not "needs" but "wants". Next thing you know, they are going to ask people to sponsor them to buy them a 3-story house, an SUV, a swimming pool, etc. Etc. They should be ashamed of themselves. And then there are the people who feel sorry for them and tell the rest of us that we are being "unChristian" and have bad attitudes. A wedding is a WANT not a NEED. If someone can`t afford a wedding, they don`t have any business even being on this message board, because this is a board to post tips for weddings. And if you CANNOT AFFORD A WEDDING then you don`t need to have one!!!!

You know, I had never heard of weddings being sponsored until I began participating on this board. And let me tell you, I think it is nuts for someone to come on this board and ask for people to literally pay for their wedding, especially those who preface their request with "needy, not much cash, in debt." Come on, people. Isn`t that all of us?? If you really want to be just husband and wife, then go to the JP. But, if you think you deserve or want a larger wedding--SAVE, PLAN, and set the date on an appropriate date. I believe that is what most of us are doing...Anyways, good luck to all of you and congratulations on your upcoming weddings. I know that planning a wedding is not cheap, but most of us have managed a way to have our weddings within our means by saving, bargaining, etc.

I am a Christian and do not feel it`s unchristian at all to believe that adults should be able to pay for their own wedding. A wedding is a luxury not a need, if you want one sacrifice and save like the rest of us. My fiancé and I both have a child from a previous relationship, a house to care for and bills to pay but we (when I say we I mean I) want to have a wedding so we’ve began making preparations and paying for things and set the date for next summer so we will adequate time to pay everything off so that we have no wedding debt. Most of these post for a sponsored seem to want it right now and for free with no work or sacrifice at all, I’d be surprised to see these marriages last.

Thank you guys !!!!!!
I thought I was going to get flamed for my opinion!

I want breast implants! LOL

Anything that you guys want!

We`ll jump on the sponser band wagon like almost everyone else on here! LOL

Best Wishes
Nina

No you should not be kicked off for way of thinking.But you should not judge others.If someone wants help paying for there wedding theres nothing wrong with asking.And as far as the ads being put up at the wedding site theres a very tasted full way of doing that.

I complete disagree with you Darlene, there is "no" tasteful way to ask someone to help pay for your wedding! If you`re going to ask someone to pay for your wedding, then I think they should have a say in what will be done, as far as decorations, flowers, colors, music everything! This is tacky and it sounds like people that ask for sponsors are looking for a free ride! My fiance and I are working our butts off working tons of overtime to have the wedding of our dreams. WE both want a beautiful wedding, and yes, weddings are expensive, but it`s something "optional` which means if you can`t afford it, don`t have one! Have something smaller, why should people be asked to foot the bill for something that you want???? A wedding is something huge and expensive! If you want to get married pay for it yourself! What`s next??? Help me pay for my new home, my new baby, a new car!!!!!!!!! Get off your butts and work for what you want!!!

I have to agree this is crazy!! I am working my butt off too. I do have to admit my mom is paying 2,000 but what we did is we spilt it mom 2,000 him 2,000 and me 2,000 we are able to plan this 6,000 wedding including honeymoon! We knew it would be tough but thats why we planned 9 mths before we did the math and said this is what is going to take and we did it . No one is ever going to remember what the flowers were how the food taste. My cousin had a 25,000 wedding and the mom cant even remember what the flowers were! They were together for 10 yrs and the marriage lasted 10 wks! What a waste!! I feel the simlier it is the better its going to be! Good luck !

For thoses of you who don`t know!!!You decide where thing go and what flowers to use.

Darlene, your e-mail didn`t make much sense. Are you saying that if you have your wedding sponsored, you are the one that chooses everything? That the sponsors basically just plaster their names all over everything???? You might decide what colors to use and what kind of flowers to have, but your sponsors probably tell you where to put them in order to have their name of business shown!!!!

Amen, Nina! To me, "needy" implies someone who can`t afford food or a place to live, not someone who can`t afford a Vera Wang gown and filet mignon for 300 people.

I think if you`re truly ready to get married, you should be enough of a grown-up to work and save for your wedding, or be content with just getting married, even without the big wedding. If you`re still expecting everyone else to pay your way in life, I would seriously reconsider whether you`re ready for marriage.

AMEN to all of you who think asking for sponsers is inappropriate. I simply can not fathom how some people think and behave. The audacity of some people is mind boggling.

Darlene,

I respect what you have to say but, I`m going to ask you a question

If you believe that there`s nothing wrong with people begging for money for things that are not really necessary.

Then I will ask you to sponser my breast implants and I will put "Sponsered by Darlene" on one of them.

Now this is serious if you say no then I want to know why your answer is no.

If it`s because you don`t think that it`s necessary or If it`s because you think it`s tacky Well then ................ It`s kinda the samething.

Do you see what I`m getting at!

It`s just my opinion I could be wrong.

Love,
NINA

Nina, I think you are right !!!

Nina someone on the board said there are a lot of Christian women who will give these people money for their weddings, so maybe they will also sponsor our breast implant surgery as well! !!!! Also, I would like to ask those same "Christian" women to sponsor my honeymoon in the Bahamas and a 3 week tour of Europe.

Ling,

You savy little thing you !

Christians huh !

This Sunday hang out in front of your local churches with a sign saying you want sponsered breast implants and your willing to take your new girls on a tour of Europe. Ya know just for the education side of all of it!

Wait, wait ,wait!

I have a better idea!!!! I`ll do it too!
Then are new girls can tour europe together!

Awww they`ll grow up together! We`ll even exchange pictures too.

Best wishes Ling,

Love,
NINA

This has become hilarious in terms of responses! I read all of them. The person who suggested Christian women to the needy couple said it would be good to donate used items, they didn`t say to give them money to pay for the wedding. Could be they felt Christian women were a little less judgmental, well, they`r esupposed to be anyway, willing to help. There is a difference there, between giving used items and giving money. I agree people are more willing to give a stranger at the front door a rarely used or worn coat from the hall closet than give them $5.00. It is tacky, tacky, tacky to ask for money, I can`t believe people do, too. But just as there are many people as we can see here from responses that want to tell the needy couple to go take a hike, there are probably some who would send a used item that`s only taking up space. But by now, if I were the needy couple, I would not dare post my email address for fear of an extremem email butt kickin`.

You girls are awesome! You know, I want a breast REDUCTION, if anyone wants my boobs, just pay for my surgery, and I`ll be happy give them to you! I also want laser eye surgery, if any optometrist`s office wants to sponsor me, I`ll get a little tattoo next to my eye that says "sponsored by So-and-So Optometry."

Hello to all!

Samantha you brought up some very good points! I would be more understanding if someone asked for used stuff and that`s not a half bad idea !

I will have 30 hurricane candle holders after the wedding and I will never use 30 of them again and I would donate them to a couple who could not afford them! That I would respect!

Now Heidi .........
I wonder if we could get a two for one special on the whole breast thing! KFC has um why can`t we!
We can share an oxygen tank maybe?

Maybe if you have some extra stuff you can share with Ling also!

See how alittle networking will get you far!

Best wishes to all (even if your being sponsered)

Love,
NINA

Instead of being ignorant, disrespectful and downright rude............ Offer suggestions. How do you go about having a marriage for $1000 as some of you suggested? Be positive!