The Truth

Your post is so ridiculous I almost feel sorry for you. You posted the most self-centered post I`ve ever read.

Do you have any idea how horrible your post is? Probably not........

Think of this.

You want to get someone a nice gift but you just don`t want to hand them cash or a gift card you really want them to know that you thought about them and didn`t want them to think that you just shoved some money in an card and there you go!

So you go to the mall and spend your time trying to find the perfect gift for that perfect someone and you have it wrapped really nice and your so excited to give it to them!

They open it and look at you and go "OMG this is the third glass bowl I`ve got what am I supposed to do with this" (ya know because you don`t want to lie to them like you said) or you hear "didn`t she read the invitation it said we didn`t need any house stuff".

You would feel pretty stupid and hurt that you spent all that time thinking it really would be the perfect gift and you thought she would really like. Now you just want to smash the glass bowl over her head.

Now do you want your guests to feel that way or feel that way about you?

Just something to think about.

Yes, money is a popular gift these days, and I`m sure appreciated by all. No one will argue that fact with anyone. The arguments start when everyone is trying to figure out a way to "ask" for monetary gifts. If your family and friends know your situation then they will give you money without any prompting. I cut and pasted this from The Knot.....
Cash: How Do We Ask for Gifts of Money?
Q. How do you ask for gifts of money only?

A. Well, you can`t ask for any specific gifts from your guests, monetary or otherwise. What you can do is let them know *if they ask* that you would prefer cash gifts. Let your parents, siblings, wedding party, and close friends know too, and have them tell guests the same thing if they`re asked. But *don`t* announce it in a formal way to your guests (whatever you do, don`t put a card in the invitation!). If guests are curious, they`ll ask someone close to you what you would most like to receive. Some guests are going to want to buy you material gifts, so it`s a good idea to register somewhere, at least for some stuff. And of course, be sure to accept and acknowledge (that means thank-you notes) *every* gift gracefully. As for money gifts: Let the giver know how you intend to spend their gift in your thank-you card.