Having 2nd Thoughts...

Having second thoughts? Normal? Oh YEAH! Absolutely, girl. And, to tell you the truth, those "second thoughts " may be telling you something important. But, everybody has normal doubts and fears leading up to the wedidng. It depends on what specific things about your man are troubling you. Remember, many , too many women hide from facing the characteristics of their intended that irritate them. Too many women are certain that their love will change their man, will reform him. But, they don't plan on telling their fiance this until after they've "caught" him--married him. If you have a number of Renovation Projects in mind for your man after you've married him you are doing you both a big disservice. Come to him and discuss your apprehensions. Possibly he has similar fears. Please be honest with him. You will be doing both of you a lifelong favor whether you get married or decide to back out of the whole deal.

Having second thoughts is normal! I thought I was crazy for having them but I soon realized it was ok.....and I wasn`t crazy! My wedding is less than four months away and I`ve seriously considered calling the whole thing off because I was so scared. The most important thing to consider is whether or not your feelings are really just normal "jitters" or if there are other more serious issues regarding your relationship that need to be dealt with. I can completely relate to how you are feeling. You just have to look inside yourself and try to figure out is it the idea of the wedding "day" that is making you so apprehensive or is it the idea of the lifelong marriage. These are two entirely different concepts. The first lasts only a few hours, the latter is forever. I have really been thinking more deeply lately about my own relationship and yes, I am at a point in my life where I was just beginnning to "find myself" so to speak, and now I fear that marriage will take that sense of identity and independence away from me. We all have issues to work through, it`s just determining where the issues stem from, that`s the hard part.