Dollar Dance

Here`s my tip for you -- don`t do the dollar dance -- it`s tacky.

I`ve got a much better idea. Since you are trashy enough to charge your guests to dance with you, why don`t you be a pick pocket at your reception? While all of your guests are dancing you can go through their purses and steal their money, then put your hand into the men`s pockets and take their wallets. Now THAT will really help fund your honeymoon and help you recoup the costs of your wedding.

GOOOOOOOOO Sticky Fingers!

Hi All,

First of all, dollar dance happens to be part of a cultural event for some people. For example, hispanic and filipinos passed this tradition from generation to generation. My father is caucasian and my mother is Filipino. I decided to have a Filipino wedding since I`m closer to my mom side of the family. I find that most Americans find money dance very tacky. However,money dance is wedding tradition in my culture. My relatives looks forward on participating on this event. Most of my invitees are 50% caucasians and are very educated and open minded, and wouldn`t mind to mingle in this event. Beside, people don`t need to participate if they don`t want to. I would understand. My wedding is my day and i could do whatever i want. You should not have to please people.

To answer your question, most people used a sewing pin to attached the money to your wedding dress. If you don`t want your dress to ruin, you can use a shawl and have people attached the dollar money. I hope this helps...

Thanks,
Kathy

It`s true, it is traditional in some cultures. The two I have seen though did not pin money on their dresses. They carried a pretty little purse to put the bills in. You might want to think twice about pins in your dress. All those little holes, for one. And second, the ink on the bills CAN rub off on your gown.

I just wanted to say that I come from a very Scandinavian area, where a dollar dance is expected. Usually the first attendants collect the money. It is a great way to slow down for a few minutes and have a small conversation with everyone. The elderly especially look forward to it.

My goodness Linda and Meredith. I`m wondering if your weddings were or are going to be fun at all!! I am Mexican and this is a tradition that we celebrate in our weddings! It`s fun! Even the little one`s get in on it! They like the idea! There`s a choice for your guests, only those that wish to participate do, those that don`t do have fun watching. Especially when you start doing really funny dances! Enjoy it! It`s a party!!!!

"My goodness Linda and Meredith. I`m wondering if your weddings were or are going to be fun at all!!"

It`s not something that`s done in my area or traditionally in my culture. But I already said among some cultures it is a common event. So Adriana, if that`s the case for you then you should enjoy it. All I was trying to do was give the original poster suggestions about where to put the bills.

Because of some of the post on here I almost took the dollar dance out of my program all together then I remembered how much fun I experienced when participating in the same event at many other weddings. I will definitely have the dollar dance at my wedding.

I know the people on this board come from many different cultures and backgrounds but I think being rude is BAD universally isn`t it?

Our daughter was married last Saturday and the DJ had a great suggestion....we did "Dash for Cash" He announced that the bride and groom would be competing with one another to see who could collect the most dollars before the song finished...the guests were told that anyone who wanted to participate could wave a dollar over their head...the music he played was very fast paced, and it was hilarious watching the bride in her gown and the groom race around the hall to anyone holding up a bill for them. They were breathless and the crowd had a ball watching them. Needless to say...the bride won the racem having grabbed the most bills and therefore was "entitled to say how the money was spent" which the DJ then said to the groom "Welcome to Marriage Mister!"

Weddings are supposed to be about declaring your love not collecting money from all your "guests". I think the dollar dance and that "dash for cash" idea are both horrendous, rude and tacky. The guests are there to help you celebrate your love, not to provide you with the funds to pay off your wedding, or debts or fund a honeymoon or home. When you invite someone to come share your day it should be because you can`t imagine not having them there to share in your joy, it shouldn`t be because you need some money. It`s not being rude to state that you don`t agree, this is a message room so that people can get different opinions. I, personally, would think twice about these money grabbing schemes. How would you feel if you were a guest being told to provide some cash? I`m betting most people wouldn`t appreciate it too much.

Sarah, the "dollar dance" or dash for cash are both options to add a little fun. If you don`t want to do this at your wedding then don`t do it! Why is it tacky? You are not forcing anyone to participate. When you plan a wedding you can`t aim to please everyone, people are always going to talk about tacky this tacky that, but guess what? Those are the first ones having more than their share at the dinner as well as the bar! I`m not saying that doing the dollar dance is something we should do to get reinbursed, I`m just saying that if it`s something that we find fun, then go for it!!!! I`m doing it at my wedding!!!! The guests that wish to participate will and those that don`t, that`s fine, they can sit back and watch and laugh at how funny some of the dances turn out to be! loosen up a bit Sarah!!!

Adriana, I know about that - there is no way to please everyone with regard to a wedding. Its not everyone`s wedding anyway - just the bride and groom.

Thanks Missy for agreeing, it is the bride`s and groom`s wedding after all! Do what makes both of you happy! Good luck in everyone`s weddings, hope you all have beautiful one`s.

I don`t understand how so many people could mix up asking for information on how to get the money to stick with asking for opinions on whether or not you thought the dance was appropriate. Yes, this is a message board to share opinions "when asked" I would like to remind many of you but I have noticed many times as in this case people are giving advice or options that were not asked for. Why is it that if you can not help with the needs of the post you must submit your objections? Again the question here is ADVICE ON GETTING THE MONEY TO STICK TO HER DRESS!!! Yes Sarah I do find it rude that people on this board feel they must voice their objections or opinions to perfect strangers even though what they have to say is not relevant to what the question is. From reading your post I can see that you have never attended a wedding where the dollar dance was done but it is in many cultures expected and a big hit.

Nodia, you`re silly, even you Ms proper didn`t stick to the original question! You got caught up in calling everyone rude! I am Mexican and we do the dollar dances at our weddings all the time, and we have very generous guests also! I find most of the time that the money is pinned on the veil with sewing pins! this should work fine!

Call me what you like but I had something to say so I said it. I did not get caught up in anything I did not answer her question because truly don`t know how to get the pins to stick but I thought just maybe she’d feel a little better if she knew that everyone was not bashing her. If I post a question and the majority of the replies I received were rude or negative and did not apply to the question I’d be a little upset.

Would it be okay to use double-sided scotch tape to put on the dollar bills? I use double-sided tape for many things, it really comes in handy.

You know else you can do Missy? start a trail of money, what I mean is attach the first bill to your veil with a sewing pin, then have your guests attach the rest to each bill after that, that way you don`t end up with ton`s of holes on your veil and this way you avoid damage to your dress altogether. Also remember that your guests will also be attaching bills to the groom, in that case, it can be attached with pins to his tux or shirt! Have fun.

Congratulations on your wedding first of all! In my family the dollar dance is a tradition that everyone looks forward to in order to contribute to the honeymoon of the bride and groom. If you want to have the money stuck to you for pictures, go for it... It`s your wedding...maybe a paper clip, strategically placed at the collar of your dress would work for collection if you want it on you... However, a nice idea that I`ve seen is to get a pretty wicker basket for each person to lay their dollar bill in, or have someone from your bridal party collect it for you.

You women are being very immature. This message board is for getting opinions on a specific subject, not to degrade eachothers idea. Please grow up and spend your energy on your wedding, not on arguing on a message board.