Do You Think 16 Is Too Young

Yes, oh my yes. You can barely drive - you are infatuated with this girl, probably not in love with her.

I agree. I met the man of my dreams when i was 15 and we were so in love. Yeah ok, at least one of us was. We dated for almost 3 yrs, a few months before I turned 18, he had just turned 19, and could move to be closer with him, I found out he had been cheating on me. A mutual friend told him I was cheating on him but I wasn`t. So in return, I guess to him, 2 wrongs make a right, he did cheat.
A few months after that I was still totally heartbroken but my cousin hooked with up with this guy, that honestly, I started dating because he reminded me of my ex but almost 9 yrs later it is clear to me that he is completely different!
I still hear about my ex through our mutual friend and when i look at his picture i always wonder what might of been. Then I look at my man now and our two kids and I do not care what might have been, I care about what is now.
Feelings change, people change,especially around that age. I would give her just a promise ring and promise to be true to her and do your best by her. Then at 18, when high school is over and you see where your life is going, if your feelings are still the same, move on to an engagement ring. And remember, there is nothing wrong with a long engagement.

I don`t doubt that you are in love. Teens can certainly have true feelings of love for someone. But yes, I do think you are much too young to be planning a wedding. With marriage comes huge responsibilities that a sixteen year old cannot and should not take on. Enjoy this time, enjoy your girlfriend and have fun. You don`t ever get your teen years back, so treasure them and make the most of them and don`t try and grow up so fast!

Grant, nobody is going to agree with you that you`re at a good age to get married except other teenagers. Think about that for a minute. Anyone who`s lived their life, graduated from high school, gone on to college/work or wherever their life has taken them, will tell you to wait.

True love isn`t about that pain in your chest when she`s away, or not being able to stop thinking about her. It`s about growing together, finding out who you are as individuals as well as a couple, and seeing if you still love that person even after the pain-in-your-chest feeling goes away (which it will), and when your life becomes such a busy balancing act of things that you AREN`T thinking about that person every single second (which will happen). If you guys really love each other, give yourselves some time to grow, give your relationship time to grow, and see where it takes you. Best wishes to you both.

Boy, do I know how you feel. I have been with my fiance since I was 15, he 14. I got my promise ring at age 16, and believe me I thought I was ready to get married. Because of great parents, I waited. College came, then graduation and He and I grew together, first as a couple, then as individuals. We are now planning our wedding, that won`t take place for another two years (2006). I am 23 now. Believe me, you will value the time apart, and the union will be that much sweeter. If it truly was meant to be it will last and she will wait. The growing and experience in the next 10 years of your life is so important for both of you to be better partners and companions for each other. When we get married, we will have been together for 10 years, and I am so happy I waited. We are new people, educated, responsible and financially secure. Please wait, I know, (I went through the same thing) it feels hard, but until you get older, you will not realize that this time as individuals is needed for a strong and healthy partnership. Good luck- hey if you need to show a commitment, (once again I know the feeling) a promise ring is the way to go. Its sort of a reservation, a commitment for the future, something to look forward to and live for.

I agree with everyone`s comments, I am now 29 years old, divorced. I met my ex-husband when I was 20 years old, he was my second boyfriend, I thought I was madly in love with him and couldn`t live without him! We got married and had a little girl, things were great the first year, after that things changed drastically. I realized we didn`t know eachother as well as I thought. You see, when you think you`re in love, you don`t see the whole picture. Even at 20 years old, I think now that we were too young to take on that huge of a responsibility. Now I think back and realize that I had so much to live and rushed to marriage. I put off college to raise a baby, (I know I could have done both). People do it every day. But at that point I couldn`t worry about college, we had bills to pay, it was either pay rent or buy food! it`s so hard, even now as I`m older it`s still hard to make ends meet, a lot of people probably share that opinion with me. Please think about your decision wisely and thoroughly, you have a whole life ahead of you, go to college, have fun!!! then get married, this sounds corny, but if you and your girlfriend are meant to be together, then you will eventually get married! Enjoy yourselfs, you should be worrying about what outfits to wear on dates, not marriage. It`s really hard being married! But let me tell you that`s even more painful going thru a divorce. Good luck in your decision and may God bless you.

YES YOU ARE TO YOUNG BUT...... IF YOUR HEART BEATS REALLY FAST AND SLOW AT THE SAME TIME WHEN YOU R WITH HER SHE IS THE ONE I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND SINCE IWAS 16 AND I AM NOW 28 AND WE HAVE A CHILD WE R GETTING MARRIED NEXT YEAR YOU NEED TIME TO GROW! AND TO GET TO REALLY KNOW EACH OTHER PEOPLE GROW UP AND YOU WILL CLIMB MANY MOUNTAINS AND EXPERIENCE THING`S YOU NEVER THOUGHT COULD BE BUT .. IF SHE IS REALLY THE ONE IT WILL WORK . BEST OF LUCK ! AND GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU

Andrea, did you forget to go to English class? I`ve never read such poorly written posts.

HEY MER DO YOU NOT HAVE ANYTHING BETTER TO DO THEM MAKE FUN OF SOME ONE SOME PEOPLE USE R FOR ARE AND SHORTING THING`S UP A LITTLE GET A LIFE AND STOP FINDING THE WORST IN PEOPLE

Yeah Meredith, you make quite a bit of smart remarks on these posts she got her point across without a problem, maybe you`re the one that needs the English classes since you didn`t understand it.

Thanks everyone for your advice... We both wear promise rings on our finger now and we have decided to take things a litlle slower. I will post on here again in the future and let you all know how everything works out with us. Thank you again

I am 17 and in love. We fell in love the first time we met. We have plans of getting married and starting a family. But not until years down the road will that happen. I think you are perfectly capable of deciding if you want to spend the rest of your life with some one. Just dont rush it. We will be marrying at some point but not sure when. We are moving in together in a few months. Then we will be moving to florida in the summer. But the family life we have planned wont start until we know we are old enough and ready. We figure around 30 or so. But we are in love, and engaged. Maybe when i turn 18 we will marry. But the point is you are not too young. Just dont rush the things that will make it difficult until you are ready. Well thats my advice. Good luck to you and your love. Have a wonderful life. And if for some reason years down the road things dont work out, you`ll still have the wonderful memories of your first or true love

The Short answer is yes. However I was your age once, and I was in love at your age. So I know that these admonitions, the one that I am offering and the others posted here, will probably carry little weight. In addition, you probably already know on some subconscious level, what we are telling you. You feel this buring passion for this girl and yes you feel it is true love. However, I have news for you - you will feel this again, for someone else.

You aren`t to young to be in love, but as a general rule it`s not a good idea to get married that young.
You can stay together and be committed to eachother, but hold off marriage until each of you has had a chance to experience life a little.
There are so many things that come with married life that just being in love won`t solve. Bills, insurance, careers, etc.
If you are truly in love than it shouldn`t be problem to wait. Give yourself a chance to be young and not have to worry about things like health insurance and morgages.