Postpone Wedding
My wedding is in about a month. I just lost my job, my fiance lost her job, and i have now also suffered a broken leg and am on crutches. I asked my fiance if it would be ok if we postpone the wedding until we got back on our feet and i was comfortable again. She will not budge and has now given me and ultimatum. Either marry her on the day we said or she is leaving me. My family is fumed at her, i can not beleive she would do it either, but now feel really unfcomfortable. Basically, my feelings do not matter anymore. I need help please!!!!!!
Posted by Nickity; updated 05/21/04
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Honey, I think you need to sit down and have a nice chat with her! It could just be the stress and she isn`t thinking clearly or she just loves you so much she wants to marry you no matter what!
I am not a doctor so broken bones are not my specialty but could it be possible that in a month your leg could be ok enough to go without the crutches?
Maybe a weekend in the house with a nice dinner, cooked at home, and some relaxation time could help the two of you to think this through more clearly and possibly come to a compromise. I am sure if she thinks about it, a few years down the road when she is looking at wedding pictures, the last thing she really wants to see is a reminder of how tough times were at that moment and YOU with crutches! Yeah, that is what every bride dreams of! hehe
Hope all works out with you. I am sure you can come to some sort of compromise!
Posted by brandy; updated 05/21/04
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Nickity,
Remember that for a woman, delaying the wedding means having to put up with the gossiping of other women and the "I wonder what happened?, Is he going to leave her? Are the having problems?"....etc...she does love you, but by canceling the wedding, ur putting her in the spotlight for gossip galore....
My advice is to still have the wedding, but on a smaller scale. Seeing that you have a month left, hurry up and see what you can cancel while lossing the least amount of money. Or ask her if u guys can get married on the set date but make a small wedding with just close family and friends and then later have a vow renewal with all the hoopla...
Posted by dede; updated 05/22/04
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That is the problem with women, GOSSIP! Whocares what other women think. I am sure all the guest will understand and if not than that is their problem.
I say talk to her about postponing.
Most vendors, as long as they can fill that date and you reschedule with them, will approve a cancellation. With it only being a month away, I am not sure if they will be able to fill the date unless it is for something other than a reception.
This is a really tough call and it is something that you need to talk to your fiancee and family about.
Posted by brandy; updated 05/23/04